Getting back with an Ex...but unsure if its what i really want?

Hi Squiz, what you need to do is to think what your relationship with your ex is likely to turn out like. If you go over all the time you two were together, and all the time you weren't together, just what do you come up with. When I read this I think to myself this guy is mentally unstable. Sometimes he abuses you, sometimes he is a gentleman, sometimes he wants to settle down, sometimes he makes you feel suffocated. So what you need to think about is what good can come from a relationship with him for you. For its you that needs to realise you have to do what is best for you. Don't write a question about all his problems, his problems are for him to sort out, not you. It's all very well him saying he wants to change and get counselling, but that doesn't mean when he gets through this counselling he's going to be any different. Counselling doesn't always work, on top of that it may work for a time, and then he might revert to his old self. So when he wants 100% commitment these are some of the things you need to reason out. Even in your last paragraph it's all about negative thinking about you, and positive thinking about him. You don't think about him and his problems, until you're sure what you want what you need and how you see your future with him. And you really need to convince yourself that this future is something that would be beneficial to you. If you come to a conclusion that you think you can deal with anything he may throw at you. Then that's okay. However if you think of one little tiny thing that might go wrong, then you must think of yourself first, for one tiny little thing with this guy may be blown out of proportion to say the least. So what I would ask you to do is think very carefully, for it is your future and your decision. You understand I'm answering this for you, not for him. I'm not interested in the slightest about his problems. I'm interested in you and your future. And that is what I urge you to think about. I wish you happiness.